All of us have been fed the myth that couples who find themselves in couples counseling are the ones who are holding on to the final threads of a failing relationship. It is for couples who have been together for far too long in an unhappy situation and are making a last ditch effort before filing for divorce, right? This perspective on seeking outside advice for how to build a stronger and healthier marriage could not be further from the truth. Here are three areas that you and your significant other should definitely work on before walking down the aisle.
Feng Shui is rising in popularity in the West and has become a serious thing to many. I like to look at things in a more light-hearted way and decided to share a few amusing facts about it.
On a more serious note, Feng Shui is not just about de-cluttering and having an excuse to throw out your mother-in-law's Christmas gifts. It is a beautiful and wondrous system that has improved lives for centuries. The best place to start would be to consult with a professional Feng Shui consultant in your area and then enjoy the process. Although it is not magical, Feng Shui brings astonishing results.
Feeling Stuck? Relationship Going Nowhere? Work Feels like Slavery? Kids driving You Crazy?
Our bodies are sophisticated spheres of energy that function within and interact with an external world of energy fields. When there is an imbalance or block in the energy flowing through our bodies, it causes us to feel irritable, depressed, angry, and even worse, manifestation of pain and disease. The imbalance further impacts the energetic spheres that are surrounding us, thus creating disharmony in our home, work and personal relationships. The imbalance can literally block you from advancing and succeeding, causing you to feel as if you are stuck in a box with no escape. And, when you reach this stage, what usually happens? You yell at the kids, kick the dog, divorce the husband and quit the job—all panic responses to the overwhelming feeling of being stuck due to severe energy imbalance and blockages.
But the keys to emotional freedom are within your reach. And here is the secret: “Change starts within you and if you change, everything around you changes, even the movie you created to be in the beginning.” Easy enough right? Well, yes and no. You have the power to change…this is the easy. Change takes work…this is the not easy.
So what’s happening exactly? We interact with others and energy is released from that interaction. It comes to us and our subconscious bioenergy sensor receives the energy and based upon whether the receptor is strong or weak, we react a certain way. Our reaction sends out energy signals, which are received by others, and we end up in a cycle of escalating energetic war, so to speak, leading to a complete breakdown in communication.
How To Begin?
I practice the Yuen Method of Chinese Energetics, a powerful energy healing methodology that combines 5,000 years of Chinese tradition with the best of western medicine. The Yuen method teaches us how to separate our thoughts from our emotions and our emotions from our feelings. It gives us transformative tools to clear energy blockages and strengthen our ability to be neutral to the energy force that is created by life events. Then every challenge becomes a gift to bring us closer in love and harmony to our loved ones, friends, co-workers, even the stranger on the street.
If you happen to find yourself in Hollywood, California, you do not want to miss out on a night of great laughs at the world-famous “Comedy Store.” The current crop of headliners is truly the cream of the crop of comedians, including: Rob Schneider, Dana Carvey, Jay Leno, and others. Opened in 1972 by a pair of comedians, the Comedy Store became the signature venue to showcase and sharpen one’s stand-up comedy routine. Aspiring talent could be sure that the audience would include producers and agents looking for the next big star for their film or TV show. Jim Carrey, Chris Rock, Robin Williams, Richard Pryor and others secured a major boost up in their career thanks to the Comedy Club. For Elena Eustache too, it was the perfect venue to share her unique stand-up comedy routines with a receptive audience. She has been seen performing there with an elite crop of America’s most famous comedians.
Venues like the Comedy Club, Improv and Laugh Factory specialize in stand-up comedy, meaning that the comedian is performing before a live audience. One truly has to be on his or toes for this task. Immediately, the audience can love you or hate you. A life-saving skill is the comedian’s ability to interact with and read the audience in real time.
Improv started even before Comedy Club, opening its first doors in the mid-1960s. After a rocky start, Improv became the live venue of choice for just about every comedian including such household names as: Lily Tomlin, Eddie Murphy, Billy Crystal, Jerry Seinfeld, Ellen DeGeneres, Andy Kaufman, and the list goes on and on. Sharing the stage at Improv with the Jerry Seinfeld, Sara Silverman, Jeff Ross and other big names is one of New York’s exciting comedic talents, Elene Eustache who loves to make people laugh.
Comedy hit television too, with many of the live, stand-up comedy venues taping and airing for a television audience. Among the new crop of TV comedy shows is “The Ring Masters” which stars Elene Eustache. Eustache is also the creator, writer and executive producer of the show. Performing along side her are many of today’s hot comedians.
You made it through the late night feedings, sleepless nights, scary first day when your child leaves the house for school for the first time, watched as self-identification and a sense of independence slowly took hold, and began to daydream about how much fun it is going to be when he or she is a teenager and you can have great conversations, become “friends,” take long car drives together and spend weeks on the beach in peace and bliss. And then it happens—your child is a teenager and suddenly you feel as if an alien ship from outer space came and snatched your child and replaced him with….a stranger. Every conversation becomes an argument. Your child suddenly wants to have nothing to do with you. He screams at you to stop interfering in his life. She says you don’t have a clue about anything. You can’t stand the music she is listening to, and those clothes…. Some days it is a struggle to remember that you love your child. Welcome to the teen years. This time period with your child will be the most challenging of all. Don’t despair, breathe, try to find the humor and keep your balance. Here are a few pointers, but there are many more.
Love—love your child unconditionally. Learn how to accept them as they are in this moment, remembering that everything is but a passing phase. Discipline must be with love, expectations must be with love, everything you do must come from a place of love so that your child always feels safe as he or she struggles with the inner turmoil that is a natural part of their teen years.
Remember—it is not the world of your parents or even yours. There is tremendous pressure on teens today, from media, social media (Facebook likes) peer pressure, the need to fit in. You may even notice anger in your child as he or she copes with these overwhelming challenges.
Your teen is not you. Don’t try to change your child’s attitude or perspective on life, it is not going to happen and it will serve only to add to the conflict. Accept with love, avoid power struggles and don’t take your child’s words or attitudes personally. Remember—it is not about you.
Our memory sometimes just does not recall some of the things we go through. In fact some of our painful experiences will be transmuted into other forms of fears that affect our healthy functioning into adulthood. The connection of this memory to our bodily condition will be far removed and almost unrecognizable from its original form. What is the connection of memories to the physical body?
You were told to make a list of qualities that you seek in a partner. You wrote the list down or just remembered it in your head. The list is long and detailed.
This same person, who you chose to live with according to the list, now seems to be nothing like the one you connected to.