Here are a few quick tips for turning your home into your personal oasis of calm:
Collapsing financial markets, earthquakes, volcanic eruptions, floods, wars…the world has become a stressful place. As we have discussed in previous articles, we are all light beams of energy. And this energy surrounds and connects us. The chaos in the world creates channels of chaotic energy that impacts each one of us, whether we realize it or not. Perhaps you are not sleeping as well, or find that you have less of an appetite or the opposite. Maybe your patience is short and the little things that did not upset you before have now become your “red line.” What you want to do more than anything is board a plane and go to an island in the sea, but for various reasons, this is not practical. How can you create a shelter from the storm?
Your home should be a refuge from the stressors of the world. But for many, home is just more of the same—a place of chaos, stress, discord, work—all the things that prevent you from having even a moment to recharge. Over the years, I have helped many clients create safe and calming spaces within their homes. Feng shui and Zen, practices that I utilize in my healing work, are great tools for creating a healthy, healing and rejuvenating home environment.
Here are a few quick tips for turning your home into your personal oasis of calm:
How to Help Your Teen Deal with a Broken Heart
It is almost a rite of passage—that first broken heart. You probably remember. The majority of teens move on from this event, and continue on with life. But some will mourn this first loss for the rest of their lives, and the pain of it will impact every relationship decision they make going forward, and not always for the best.
What can you do to help your teen deal in a healthy way with his or her broken heart?
I have counseled many couples, kids and parents on the topic of lost love or unmet expectations in the relationship, and I can tell you that your number one task is to give your teen lots of love—listen, validate, empathize, be patient and give them the space to heal. Here are a few pointers:
Everyone wants to be the master of their domain, but are you the master of the most important domain of all—your brain?
Maybe you are thinking…"this is a domain?” Indeed it is, because here is the home of all your thoughts, which express themselves as emotions, feelings, actions and reactions, sometimes to your physical and psychological detriment.
Neurofeedback: Training your brain
Neurofeedback therapy (NFT) has a successful track record of almost 50 years of clinical use, and is a process whereby you train your brain to function more efficiently. Similar to going to the gym, NFT teaches you how to exercise and strengthen targeted neural connections so that you can become the master of your brain—improving your attention span, maintaining emotional control, improving the quality of your sleep, recovering from stress, overcoming addictions, and other behavioral disorders such as anxiety and depression.
As a marriage and relationship counselor, one of the things I hear most often from married couples is that the spark has gone out of their relationship, it has become boring. Here are just a few tips that I like to share with my clients.
1. Humor. I have spent decades in the comedy business, from stand-up to televised comedy shows and I can tell you that nothing works better than laughter to bring happiness and intimacy to a relationship. Keeping a sense of humor and making sure you have opportunities to laugh together is one sure way to keep your marriage full of spice. Additionally, it is a documented fact that laughter strengthens your immune system, relieves stress, gives you energy and renewed strength to tackle all of your problems.
But “away” is not where you want to go. To reduce the stress, you need to go “within.”
Our lives are filled with maximum relationships and interactions in a hectic world that offers little time for true contemplation. We live our lives on autopilot. And, so are our reactions to life’s situations.
But, in truth, everything is energetic. We are bodies of energy and the world around us is filled with energetic forces. Deep within our subconscious is something called a bio-energy sensor that stimulates our emotional responses to situations and events. When the flow of energy through our bodies is blocked or imbalanced, we become weak to the energy created by the challenging event. We experience a certain emotion, but label it as a feeling, and if we are too weak, energetically, the result is anger, depression, anxiety, or physical and emotional pain and disease.
Offices all over the world are putting green incentives in place and going paperless. Sure, having less paper around gets rid of a lot of clutter which is great for Feng Shui, right? Yes, right but that doesn't mean you have any less digital clutter. If you turn your PC on, do you see hundreds of icons and shortcuts to folders and files on your desktop? Most people have a lot of clutter on the computers and mobile phones. Just like the energy in any electronic device can disturb sleep patterns, the energy held by digital clutter can have a negative effect on your life and wellbeing. It is important to put some time aside for a digital de-clutter. This is how you can start.
Get rid of the old stuff
Get rid of everything you no longer use. Documents, dated software, Facebook friends and phone contacts. If you are not sure who many of the people are in your Facebook or phone contact list, it is probably time to clear some of them out. Friends and family are easy to recognize and keep. If you are keeping contacts in your phone for future reference and have lost track of who does what, edit the contact's name by adding what they do, for example: Plumber John Piper or Cakes Jane Frosting. This makes it easier for you to locate a contact in the future. Feng Shui is all about making things flow better and smoother.
All of us have been fed the myth that couples who find themselves in couples counseling are the ones who are holding on to the final threads of a failing relationship. It is for couples who have been together for far too long in an unhappy situation and are making a last ditch effort before filing for divorce, right? This perspective on seeking outside advice for how to build a stronger and healthier marriage could not be further from the truth. Here are three areas that you and your significant other should definitely work on before walking down the aisle.
Feng Shui is rising in popularity in the West and has become a serious thing to many. I like to look at things in a more light-hearted way and decided to share a few amusing facts about it.
On a more serious note, Feng Shui is not just about de-cluttering and having an excuse to throw out your mother-in-law's Christmas gifts. It is a beautiful and wondrous system that has improved lives for centuries. The best place to start would be to consult with a professional Feng Shui consultant in your area and then enjoy the process. Although it is not magical, Feng Shui brings astonishing results.
Feeling Stuck? Relationship Going Nowhere? Work Feels like Slavery? Kids driving You Crazy?
Our bodies are sophisticated spheres of energy that function within and interact with an external world of energy fields. When there is an imbalance or block in the energy flowing through our bodies, it causes us to feel irritable, depressed, angry, and even worse, manifestation of pain and disease. The imbalance further impacts the energetic spheres that are surrounding us, thus creating disharmony in our home, work and personal relationships. The imbalance can literally block you from advancing and succeeding, causing you to feel as if you are stuck in a box with no escape. And, when you reach this stage, what usually happens? You yell at the kids, kick the dog, divorce the husband and quit the job—all panic responses to the overwhelming feeling of being stuck due to severe energy imbalance and blockages.
But the keys to emotional freedom are within your reach. And here is the secret: “Change starts within you and if you change, everything around you changes, even the movie you created to be in the beginning.” Easy enough right? Well, yes and no. You have the power to change…this is the easy. Change takes work…this is the not easy.
So what’s happening exactly? We interact with others and energy is released from that interaction. It comes to us and our subconscious bioenergy sensor receives the energy and based upon whether the receptor is strong or weak, we react a certain way. Our reaction sends out energy signals, which are received by others, and we end up in a cycle of escalating energetic war, so to speak, leading to a complete breakdown in communication.
How To Begin?
I practice the Yuen Method of Chinese Energetics, a powerful energy healing methodology that combines 5,000 years of Chinese tradition with the best of western medicine. The Yuen method teaches us how to separate our thoughts from our emotions and our emotions from our feelings. It gives us transformative tools to clear energy blockages and strengthen our ability to be neutral to the energy force that is created by life events. Then every challenge becomes a gift to bring us closer in love and harmony to our loved ones, friends, co-workers, even the stranger on the street.
If you happen to find yourself in Hollywood, California, you do not want to miss out on a night of great laughs at the world-famous “Comedy Store.” The current crop of headliners is truly the cream of the crop of comedians, including: Rob Schneider, Dana Carvey, Jay Leno, and others. Opened in 1972 by a pair of comedians, the Comedy Store became the signature venue to showcase and sharpen one’s stand-up comedy routine. Aspiring talent could be sure that the audience would include producers and agents looking for the next big star for their film or TV show. Jim Carrey, Chris Rock, Robin Williams, Richard Pryor and others secured a major boost up in their career thanks to the Comedy Club. For Elena Eustache too, it was the perfect venue to share her unique stand-up comedy routines with a receptive audience. She has been seen performing there with an elite crop of America’s most famous comedians.
Venues like the Comedy Club, Improv and Laugh Factory specialize in stand-up comedy, meaning that the comedian is performing before a live audience. One truly has to be on his or toes for this task. Immediately, the audience can love you or hate you. A life-saving skill is the comedian’s ability to interact with and read the audience in real time.
Improv started even before Comedy Club, opening its first doors in the mid-1960s. After a rocky start, Improv became the live venue of choice for just about every comedian including such household names as: Lily Tomlin, Eddie Murphy, Billy Crystal, Jerry Seinfeld, Ellen DeGeneres, Andy Kaufman, and the list goes on and on. Sharing the stage at Improv with the Jerry Seinfeld, Sara Silverman, Jeff Ross and other big names is one of New York’s exciting comedic talents, Elene Eustache who loves to make people laugh.
Comedy hit television too, with many of the live, stand-up comedy venues taping and airing for a television audience. Among the new crop of TV comedy shows is “The Ring Masters” which stars Elene Eustache. Eustache is also the creator, writer and executive producer of the show. Performing along side her are many of today’s hot comedians.
Dr. Elena Eustach: Expert in Curing Broken Hearts,
Loves and Relationships
Dr. Elena Eustache is a comedian, actress, author, relationship coach, and psychologist. With a PhD in Psychology, focusing on cognitive behavioral therapy and Neurofeedback—balancing your brain, Dr. Eustache is ready to assist couples and individuals with every kind of relationship issue. She is the cure for your broken heart and love relationships.