The first couple of years of marriage can be tough, but they are nothing compared to the 10, 15, or 20 years that follow. It is natural to feel that with the passing of the years you and your partner both start feeling bored, routine-trapped, or out of touch. But just because the honeymoon period is over doesn’t mean your relationship has to decline. Yes, the big gestures become smaller and the spontaneity is replaced with an everyday life. But in return for these things you get to raise a family, and to have a deeper, more meaningful relationship with your partner. The intimacy of an old married couple will never compare to the short lasting in-love feeling of the first few months.
So how do you get to be that old, loving couple that still holds hands? Here are 5 habits you should start nurturing today:
2) Hold hands – remember how exciting holding hand was when you first started dating? Well, it doesn’t have to stop! Hold hands whenever you go out together. The physical connection will strengthen the emotional one.
3) Divide chores – sounds mundane? It is. But simply dividing the everyday chores of the house can save a lot of fighting over whose turn it is to do the dishes or the laundry.
4) Eat together – dinner time is a great time to catch up on the day and share your thoughts. Frame your together time by having daily dinners without looking at the TV or your phones.
5) Love is in the little things – try to do something nice for your partner every day. Forget big or expensive, they just need to know you thought about them.
Remember, love is based on intimacy, trust and support. Don’t try to rely on occasional or expensive gestures you can’t keep up with to save your relationship. A truly strong connection is built on the little things that you can keep up for years.