Love—love your child unconditionally. Learn how to accept them as they are in this moment, remembering that everything is but a passing phase. Discipline must be with love, expectations must be with love, everything you do must come from a place of love so that your child always feels safe as he or she struggles with the inner turmoil that is a natural part of their teen years.
Remember—it is not the world of your parents or even yours. There is tremendous pressure on teens today, from media, social media (Facebook likes) peer pressure, the need to fit in. You may even notice anger in your child as he or she copes with these overwhelming challenges.
Your teen is not you. Don’t try to change your child’s attitude or perspective on life, it is not going to happen and it will serve only to add to the conflict. Accept with love, avoid power struggles and don’t take your child’s words or attitudes personally. Remember—it is not about you.