This same person, who you chose to live with according to the list, now seems to be nothing like the one you connected to.
Observe what is happening in your relationship
There are disagreements. There are money issues. He watches TV. You don't speak anymore. She is bossy. You feel hurt. One of you is afraid to make a commitment. You are bored and you constantly blame each other. There are power games. He is bald.
How could you have been so mistaken?
Were you delusional when you made the decision to share your life with this person?
In Hindi philosophy the word "Maya" means illusion. When our mind is busy judging our self and the other, it is impossible to see what is true anymore.
When you remember "the moment" you knew that you wanted to share your life with this person, how did you feel then?
We have been taught how to think ahead, to make plans and yet we have forgotten how to feel.