Everyone knows that a relationship takes hard work but not many people actually acknowledge this when they are in a one. Many people feel discouraged when they wake up from the euphoric state they were in during those first wonderful months of a relationship and find out that being in-love is not something a couple can maintain forever. You begin to fight, you doubt your happiness, and you might even feel unloved. But successful relationships are not those in which you never fight, but rather those in which, after the first phase of being in-love fades away, deep and meaningful love sets in. So how do we get from here to there? How do you go through hard times and come out even stronger?
Don’t turn a blind eye to the fact that either one of you is unhappy. Importantly, try formulating your feelings in clear sentences: “I feel underappreciated because… / I feel like you are not giving me enough attention / I want you to spend more time at home”. Help your partner understand what it is you are missing.
While a vacation may be a good opportunity to spend time together and talk things over, if you simply use it as a way to run away from your problems you’ll be disappointed to learn they are just waiting for you when you get back. Another thing to avoid at any cost is having a baby to help solve your issues. If your relationship is distraught, a baby might make it harder. Not to mention that a child needs his parents to serve as a model for a strong, healthy relationship – not to be their savior.
Too often we forget to show love to those very people whom we care most about; we are so used to their presence that we sometimes take it for granted. Make time each day to be together, acknowledge each other’s efforts and achievements, and hug for longer than a second. In short, make each other feel loved.
Dr. Elena Eustach: Expert in Curing Broken Hearts,
Loves and Relationships
Dr. Elena Eustache is a comedian, actress, author, relationship coach, and psychologist. With a PhD in Psychology, focusing on cognitive behavioral therapy and Neurofeedback—balancing your brain, Dr. Eustache is ready to assist couples and individuals with every kind of relationship issue. She is the cure for your broken heart and love relationships.